Dear School, Way to Scare the Crap Out Of Us!
- March 01, 2017
- Theresa Bertuzzi
Today there was an incident at your high school and the office sent the following message to all parents by email and phone:
“Students at the school expressed concern about threats from another student. All the students at the school are safe, and the school is operating normally.
School administration did a thorough investigation including a formal threat assessment and the school involved the Ottawa Police Services. Serious consequences have been applied at the school level.
We will continue to work closely with the student and the family, as well as our School Resource [Police} Officer and professional staff to ensure the safety of the school and the well being of your child.
The safety of all our students is our number one priority. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact the school.”
What???? That is clearly not enough information!!!! Now I understand the thought system behind the minimal information. Someone clearly is under the belief that if they keep the information to the minimum and tell everyone that everything is fine that parents will now calmly go about their day assuming that everything must be ok because the school will let them know if there was any danger to their child. Wrong!!! What you didn’t take into consideration is that these are our babies in your school. They may be bigger now and battling changing voices, acne and testing our patience to the max with their new sullen attitudes but to us they will always be those two year olds with their thumbs in their mouths dragging their teddy bears and security blankets down to the breakfast table and when you even hint that they may be in any danger we PANIC!!!! These kids are our whole world and if anything happens to them then our whole world comes crashing down. Our first instincts are to protect them and to dig, dig, dig until we have all of the information so that we know that they are safe.
What are your thinking by holding back information? That we won’t find out what is going on? This is the day of social media and communication devices. Every child has a cell phone, tablet or some contraption that they can use to text their parents and, believe me, the texts were flying. Within minutes we were all texting our children to find out what the hell was going on. My kid, of course had no idea, grrrrr, but no problem because step two is always social media where I could easily find out what the other children were texting to their parents. The result was that instead of hearing all of the information from the school so that we got 100% of a true story, we instead had to get the facts from our teenagers, so who knows how blown out of proportion those stories are. From what I understand from the texts that are going around social media a student or a possible group of students, in grade eleven, threatened to come in and start shooting students at the Black Friday Assembly that is planned for this Friday. This was then reported and a student or students may have been arrested or not arrested at the school. The rest of the group, if they exist, may or may not still be on the loose. There may have been up to ten police cars surrounding the school. Some students are scared, some want to miss school on Friday to go skiing and mine still doesn’t have a clue what is going on. Us parents then of course begin debating how it should be handled and what is really going on and go back and forth on social media until we work ourselves all up into a frenzy.
You know what would have made us feel better and stopped people from panicking? Tell us all the facts, right away in the beginning. We are going to get that information anyway and it is far better coming from you since you have all of the facts. We realize that you have to keep the student’s name confidential, not a problem as give us a day and we will all know that information anyway, but we do deserve to know exactly what is going on since you are watching over our most special treasures; our children. That’s just my opinion on that and I am now going to squeeze my kid, who just walked in the door, so hard that he is going to really hate it and I don’t care!
P.S. He won’t be at school on Friday.
One of the Parents you gave a panic attack to today!